i hv a bf n i love him like anything n can't even imagine my world without him.my bf has an image of a big flirt :love: n he had many gfs before me but he says that he was not serious with anyone kyun ki koi bhi ladki serious hone layak nhi thi but now he wants to be in long-term relationship with me as he loves me.the problem is 3yrs ago our relationship started n worked only for 1 yr bcoz some misunderstanding happpnd n i got to know something abt him that he didn't tell me n v stop talking after that.i was completely shattered as it was my first love..aisa koi din nhi hota tha jab main use yaad nhi kerti thi.but after 3 yrs i got to know that i was wrong as somebody told me wrong things abt him n realized my fault n apologized to him.he was very happy that i realized my fault n came back to him,he allso told me that i was the only gal with whom he was serious. now by the grace of god we both are agin together n sharing a nice relationship.we both are completely opposite to each other whereas he had lots of relationships aur vo thoda ab bhi flirty type ka hai n on the other hand i have always loved him there was nobody else.the thing that matters to me is can v share a healthy n long-lasting relationship? m damn serious about him n want to marry him...plzzz advice me.
thanks :-)
confused about my love
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ayesha
MemberPosted 2 years ago # -
Hi ayesha, :-) First of all, Welcome to this loving community of vlovers.. :love:
Most of your contemplations are answered in this post written by me, just have a read > [url=http://vlovers.com/luv-guru/love-articles/love-chemistry-or-mingle-mystery-life-artistry]Love Chemistry / Spousal advice - click me.[/url]
In addition, I would like to tell you :
[i]As per your proposition, he had an image of BIG FLIRT 8O , He even flirts now but a little.. U know why do boys flirt ? Answer is to get extra attention of girls, To show that they are in remarkable demand primarily.. SO what you need to do.. Give him the extra attention he needs, Let him flirt with you, Make way n room for him to flirt with you.. Challenge him over anything to be done with you ( I mean don't challenge him to flirt with others or so.. Challenge him over his capacity to fulfill your desires, Challenge him to be romantic with you, such and so)..[/i]
Before answering your question- Can we share a healthy and long-lasting relationship, I would like to know a few things :
[b]when[/b] things and time were odd for your relationship (i.e. when you both were separated), How much extra effort did he apply to get you back in his life ? This very point holds a lot importance be it your mistake or his.. how long did he try? what sort of things did he tried ?
[b]2nd thing[/b]: Do you feel safe and secure from inside when you are with him? Do you feel that he won't ever betray you? Does he respect privacy between the you two i.e. Does he share matter/things going on between you and himself among his friends be it boy or girl.. ?
[b]3rd thing[/b]: How does he make you happy ? :?:[i]The real requisite to make a relationship everlasting is d bonding, is the sense of understanding, is the truth of treatment... >>[/i]
[u]waiting for your reply[/u] :?Posted 2 years ago # -
ayesha
Memberthank u so much for ur advice saurabh. i'll surely follow that.
Here goes my answers-
1>after that incident he called me so many times to justify himself but i didn't listen to him. even i changed my all numbers. if by chance v met somewhere he always tried to talk to me.5to6 months tak he made every effort watever he could do to convince me.
2>(a)yes i do feel safe n secure from inside when m with him..i feel that ki vo mujhe kuch nhi hone dega n even he will not harm me. he often tells me ki ayesha u can blindly trust me i'll not ruin ur life.
(b)yes i feel that he'll not betray me n i completely trust him but i don't trust that girls jo humesha uske aas-pass rehti hain as i have told u he is very popular in girls n they always chase him around.
(c)no he don't share things going on between us among his friends but yes jab kabhi hum dono me koi problem ya fight ho jaati hai to vo apne best frnd se zarur share kerta hai ya help leta hai.
3>whenever i meet him or i talk to him(on phone)i get happy. when he cares for me,when he confess his love,when he makes me feel special..kabhi-kabhi uski choti-choti baatein hi mujhe bhaut kush ker deti hain. but last time when v met n he asked me to get engaged that was the best thing he has ever said to me.thanks.. :-)
Posted 2 years ago # -
Hello Aesha,
WEll.. First of all, Let me wish you best of fate and continued love !!
Now as you answered the asked questions, You might have learnt the answer of the question (can we share healthy n long-lasting relationship) by now ... I think Now you have answer to all your questions and concerns..
About his flirty nature, I already said you to let him flirt with you.. Jab use apni flirty ability tumpe jatane ka moka milega to wo dusro pe nahi jatayega.. aur challange karne se mera matlab tha ki tum use kahogi ki tumme mujhe jyada der pyar karne ki capacity hai hi nahi? to is tarah ke romantic challenge karke bhi use extra attention milega tumhara..
About opposite nature of you both, I already asked you to read my article > [url=http://vlovers.com/luv-guru/love-articles/love-chemistry-or-mingle-mystery-life-artistry]Love chemistry/ mingle mistery[/url]And about happy n everlasting relationship, You already learnt from your answers of the asked questions by me..
Now if you have any further doubt, feel free to convey :-)
Wish you both merry, loving and romantic married life..
[i]Ek dil, do jaa(n)
Pyar pe hai pyar kurba(n)...[/i]keep in touch... By the way, You may like to introduce yourself here >> [url=http://vlovers.com/forum/topic/intro-please-introduce-urself]Intro Please[/url]
Posted 2 years ago # -
ayesha
Memberthank u sooooo much SAURABH for ur effort it is really appreciated. i just want to ask u one thing maine aapko jo bhi answers diye unke according aapko kya lagta hai does he truly love me?? what is your point of view? plzz do tell me...waiting for ur reply
thanks a ton..!! :-)
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Hi Ayesha, If some1 is bit flirty, it doesn't mean that he is not committed.. I think he loves you 100 %. You just need to bind him just to you and don't just think from heart, think from contextual sense and brain..
2nd thing, I always tell a lover that you should never ever repent for why u loved some1 so much, lover in you never dies and love is the sprite of your life..
wish u all the bestPosted 2 years ago # -
ayesha
Memberthanks a lot saurabh..thank u soo much. you have solved my all queries n now i can make my relatinship better n long-lasting. thank u so much again!!
Saurabh i have a question for u,actually m very curious to know this ki how do u know so much about these relationships n all,i mean aap jo advices dete ho bhaut easy or simple hoti hain per phir bhi hum us tarah se nhi soch paate,how do u understand these things??thanks..!! :-)
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ayesha, you said it right.. The advices that I propose are very simple and applicable. I don't tell anyone anything new that he/she doesn't know. Actually I have a habit of analyzing things from unexpressed but prominent perspective.. Mai aksar logo ke behavior ko analyse karta hu. Agar kisi ke koi bat ka asar kisi pe parta hai to aisa kyu hua? kaise hua? mai ye samajhne ki kosis karta hu. Jaise maan lo kisi ne mujhe kuch kaha aur wo acha laga to mai dekhta hu ki muje q acha laga aur jab is bat ki samajh aa jati hai to aap advice of course acha de sakte hai .. Even tum mujse bat kar rahi ho to mai tumhare behavior, attitude ke bare me bhi samajhne ki kosis karta hu, tum kis nature ki hogi, tumhe kya pasand ho sakta hai, Tum par meri kon bato ka asar jyada hoga, etc, etc..
BUT let me accept one truth that when things happen with me, I too need assistance.. Agar kal ho kar mujhe koi love related problems ayegi to mai apki , aur baki members ki help lunga qki khud pe khud ka dimag kam(less) chalta hai yaar... :lol:Posted 2 years ago # -
ayesha
Memberyou have impressed me completely with ur thoughts. u know log kehte hain ki hum jab tak khud kisi baat ko experience nhi kere lete hume vo baat tab tak samajh me nhi aati...so my question is are you in love :twisted: kyun ki aap itna kuch jaante ho love ke baare me. sorry i know main bhaut questions puchti hun but kya karun mujhe interesting cheezen jaane ka bhuat shauk hai.
Posted 2 years ago # -
hello ayesha, ye community question puchne aur dher sare question puchhne ke lie hi hai :-) Mai to kahta hu tum ek aur topic start karo jisme questions aur bhi questions alag alag subject, hobbies pe karna...
Well u said it right. Jamana bahut fast hai aur maine to kayi aise kam bahut pahle (bachpan) se hi suru kar die the jo meri umra ka koi karta bhi nahi hoga :wink: Anyways, This is true, I am in love. Love is in me. I experience love in each count of moments.
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"Well u said it right. Jamana bahut fast hai aur maine to kayi aise kam bahut pahle (bachpan) se hi suru kar die the jo meri umra ka koi karta bhi nahi hoga"
Saurabh brother be specific... ki aisa kya kiya apne... Nikita iss par dhayan dena... Point to be noted... lol......
Posted 2 years ago # -
hi ayesha, seen you after so long ? Hows life going :?:
Yes, Long-term relationship works certainly but without terms (terms & conditions).. There has been several examples supporting this statement...Posted 2 years ago # -
ayesha
Memberhi saurabh, m fine n howz yu?
actually saurabh a twist has come in my life, my love has to go far away from me bcoz of his further studies n now we have to maintain a long-term relationship jiske liye m not ready.i always want ki vo humesha successful aur kush rahe but i worried ki will our relationship survive the long-distance? I'm just scared of losing him. But I don't want to become this clingy, paranoid person trying to keep him. plzz advice me somethingPosted 2 years ago # -
hi ayesha, Sorry, my internet is not working... I am writing this msg through my cellphone... My internet will start working frm tomorrow.. Do you still need my reply ?
Posted 2 years ago # -
hello ayesha, how are you ? SO what did u decide in connection with your boyfriend :?:
Posted 2 years ago # -
Hello ayesh, How are you?
You won't loose him, will u? Ayesha, love-relationship starts, prospers beyond finite boundaries coz love is itself infinite in nature that knows no evident limit. Love is the sense of living for a lover, the sense of satisfaction, the sense of desires, sympathy, emotion, etc..
Your relationship will of course survive if your beloved carries on the band wagon of successful and loving long-distance relationship.
Whether you should go for it or not ? - We are Indian and our society and several other social concerns surround us. Love can withstand everything but as long as it is committed and institutes truth & faith. I'll advise you to continue your relationship for now and let the coming time affect your decision. Love is successful hit even if risk factor rises. Keeping all these things in mind, feel from inside whether you should continue, whether you should go for this, whether you can fight social pressure if any. Listen to heart. The answer would be up in your eyes (not mind :-) ). The nature and support of your boyfriend play as crucial and critical role in your decision making as he himself...Posted 2 years ago # -
Hi Ayesha, where are you these days? You didn't reply of any further updates about your relationship and whether my advice helped you in your decision ?
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